hyperactivepineapple ( new member #86185) posted at 11:24 AM on Friday, July 25th, 2025
My other half took a good month. He turned cold on me after DD and wanted to be with her, then he started saying we could maybe resolve things. I said he had to go no contact with her and I was told responses such as I couldn’t dictate who he spoke to, the connection was stronger etc. things which still hurt to this day. There was no remorse shown. It all came out beginning of April and now he couldn’t be more sorry as to what he’s done.
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 3:37 PM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2025
My WW snapped out of it in about a week. Tho if I hadn't done the pick me dance for that first week and started taking steps toward divorce instead, I think she would have snapped out of it sooner. Once I stopped playing pick me and started calling lawyers and realtors, the reality of the situation hit her like a truck, and within a couple of days she went full NC, blocked her AP and hasn't looked back.
It's going to be different for different people so I don't think there's a typical set time period, but I do think many WS' can be shocked out of it. Don't play their game. Don't let them jerk you around. You need to make a decision that you're not going to tolerate it, and that might mean preparing yourself for the possibility of divorce. You can't just say it,then not do it. Actions speak louder than words, and that applies to both the WS and the BS.
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
