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I posted on general last week - in between all this we have been trying to reconcile since summer after WH affair with co worker.

Unfortunately hes dropped himself in it recently twice in the last 2 days where I've caught him out and hes blatantly lying about her. I know hes lying as seen things on his phone that point to this happening (he dosent know this ) nothing direct between them but things he has done involving her. When hes supposed to be NO CONTACT .

I think they are still chatting via WhatsApp but ive no proof and im in a position where I dont want to blow things up just before Christmas

My gut is telling me hes unblocking her on whatsapp when hes not at home then re blocking when at home. And they are still involved. Its easily done.

There's no way I could find this out unfortunately unless he accidentally forgot to re block her. Any ideas on how I could or any tactics? It could all just be my anxiety but ive a strong sense it isn't. Its a horrible feeling 😞 in September he admitted he missed chatting to her and the laughs. This really hurt .

Im feeling angry, on edge and anxious but id rather watch and wait for now, I can't do anything else yet :( its also my mums birthday over the Christmas period and I dont want to risk any upset just yet :(

[This message edited by Kittycatkitty at 9:50 PM, Wednesday, December 17th]

I’m not a WhatsApp expert but I always say trust your gut.

The fact he admitted he missed connecting with the OW is a huge tell IMO. Meaning he still views the OW favorably and to me, that always is an open door to resume the affair.

So sorry for you.

Thank you 1st wife x

Yes he said he missed the laughs and "banter"(more like he missed the ego boosting and attention), ive always thought the same to be honest, ive just got this awful feeling nothing has ever stopped and that they went quiet for a while and its back on again which I know is common 🥺 its either that or she has something on him and blackmailing him e.g evidence and screenshot hes scared of me getting off her and shes said if he cuts her off she will show me.

Im not sure what to do other than keep checking

I have thought of messaging one of his co workers who i kind of know, as I've a feeling they all know too (just like others have said in my other post on general)

But i dont want to involve anyone else and I risk it spiralling that way or her saying something to her husband who will then say to so on and so on

I can't keep living like this, im just feeling so fed up

K xx

[This message edited by Kittycatkitty at 6:35 AM, Thursday, December 18th]