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Good luck to you then.

It's okay for you to feel that way, as long as you are honest about it with your W so that she has all the relevant information when choosing whether to reconcile.

Thank you, GotTheMorbs. This is my largest problem with this thread and in general, the treatment of your BS. The fact is that you are unwilling to let your wife {Edit: know} what you feel and where you stand on ALL of these issues. You are handicapping her and taking away her agency. That's awful.

If you are also relying on your wife's feelings about her religion and using that to your advantage, that is equally deplorable. It's even more so if you claim to follow the same faith. You claim to fully understand and follow it faithfully, and then you claim it's faulty or insufficient to seek help from those religious leaders. Both of those things can't be true.

I understand what hikingout has said about there may be a cultural difference. I've sensed that your writing style varies in extremes. For example, you claim to not like profanity. Then you have a post with a bunch of profanity. Maybe you are in the mid-Atlantic US but from another culture. Anyway, this may be why you have an attachment and high empathy for your friend but not for your wife. It seems you can sincerely empathize with others. It's a great trait. I simply don't understand how you can shut yourself off to empathy for your wife.

[This message edited by KitchenDepth5551 at 11:04 PM, Wednesday, October 14th]

i’m just resistant to crap. I have been that way my whole life. I know it when I smell it.

And I know it too.

There's a reason you won't go to a tribunal in the church. That means you are seeking an annulment. You don't want an annulment. You don't want a divorce. You want to control your wife and get her to comply to your desires.

It's also why you won't just go and talk to a priest. You don't want to hear what they will tell you. That's why you won't talk to your wife.

You know it, and I do too.

You’re funny!

You have some of the most wise, kind, experienced minds on the internet on the topic of infidelity trying to give you free advice, and you are being dismissive and arrogant. 10 of you come across this site every year. You are anything but "unconventional".

You have some of the most wise, kind, experienced minds on the internet on the topic of infidelity trying to give you free advice, and you are being dismissive and arrogant. 10 of you come across this site every year. You are anything but "unconventional".

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